About
Kim English
I specialize in supporting survivors of coercive control/ narcissistic abuse in their healing journey. Coercive control is a pattern of abusive behaviors to exert power and control over another person, while also sprinkling in positive reinforcement to distort reality and keep you stuck. After sharing a relationship with someone who makes you doubt reality, diminishes your autonomy, and manipulates your emotions, it can be challenging to recover.
As a survivor of these patterns, it has become my passion to support others who have endured these dynamics. It is my priority to create a safe space where clients can process and recover from their experiences at a comfortable pace. Wherever you are in your journey, psychoeducation and managing expectations are important to healing your nervous system and renewing your strength.
Survivors of coercive control are incredibly resilient individuals, yet they often feel depleted after being entangled in a trauma-bonded relationship. It is my desire to help you renew the strength that has always been within you. A faith-based approach can be incorporated into your treatment if desired. I commend your courage for taking this important next step. I would be honored to be a part of your healing journey.
Specialties
Trauma Bonds & Attachment Style
After navigating a relationship with abusive patterns, it is helpful to educate yourself on the reality of your experiences. Understanding the traits and patterns that have been employed to keep you trapped helps bring clarity. It also allows you to reflect on your own attachment style, personal traits, and responses within the relationship. Wherever you are in your journey- whether you choose to maintain a relationship or go low or no contact- gaining insight into what brought you to this point will bring clarity and help you establish realistic expectations within this dynamic.
The Wounds of Betrayal
Betrayal can leave us feeling shattered. It is a deeply painful experience. Betrayal can come in many forms, including extramarital affairs, abandonment, and addictions such as pornography, gambling, substance abuse, etc. Betrayal can also include a violation of healthy relationship standards, such as repeated name-calling and belittling, diminishing your feelings and perception, and gaslighting/ manipulating, etc. Betrayal is a complex healing process, yet we are more than capable of healing and growing through these experiences.
Post-Separation Abuse
The abuse does not always end when the relationship ends. In fact, the abuse often intensifies post-separation, especially if children are involved. Abusers often weaponize children within the family court system and attempt to indoctrinate children against healthy/ protective parents. This causes psychological harm to the developing brains of children. Being a protective parent is one of the most difficult yet important roles of your life. It is important to have the appropriate tools to protect your child and yourself in these situations.
Contact
If you are interested in connecting and exploring next steps, please contact Kim to learn more about the therapeutic options that may be best for you.